THE ACCOUNTS OF THE DAY OF RESURRECTION -No:24 - Punishment in this World for Disobedience to Mother

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Your Lord has decreed that you shall not worship except Him, and your parents shall be honored. As long as one or both of them live, you shall never say to them, "Uff" (the slightest gesture of annoyance), nor shall you shout at them; you shall treat them amicably.

How to honor parents 

Treat them with love and gentleness

• Respect their opinions
• Visit them
• Offer them gifts
• Thank them
• Reduce arguments between them
• Speak to them respectfully
• Avoid yelling at them

Quran verses about honoring parents:

۞ وَٱعْبُدُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا۟ بِهِۦ شَيْـًۭٔا ۖ وَبِٱلْوَٰلِدَيْنِ إِحْسَـٰنًۭا وَبِذِى ٱلْقُرْبَىٰ وَٱلْيَتَـٰمَىٰ وَٱلْمَسَـٰكِينِ وَٱلْجَارِ ذِى ٱلْقُرْبَىٰ وَٱلْجَارِ ٱلْجُنُبِ وَٱلصَّاحِبِ بِٱلْجَنۢبِ وَٱبْنِ ٱلسَّبِيلِ وَمَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَـٰنُكُمْ ۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ مَن كَانَ مُخْتَالًۭا فَخُورًا ٣٦

"And worship Allah and do not associate anything with Him. And (show) fairest (companionship) to parents, and to the near kinsman, and the orphans and the indigent, and the neighbor who is near kinsman, and the neighbor who is a stranger, (i.e. not of the family or creed or “nationality”) and the companion at your side, and the wayfarer, and what your right hands possess. Surely Allah does not love whoever has been conceited (and) constantly boastful,"

[Surah An Nisa : Ayat 36]

۞ وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوٓا۟ إِلَّآ إِيَّاهُ وَبِٱلْوَٰلِدَيْنِ إِحْسَـٰنًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ ٱلْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَآ أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفٍّۢ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًۭا كَرِيمًۭا ٢٣

For your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And honor your parents. If one or both of them reach old age in your care, never say to them ˹even˺ ‘ugh,’ nor yell at them. Rather, address them respectfully.

[Surah Al Isra : Ayat 23]

وَإِذْ أَخَذْنَا مِيثَـٰقَ بَنِىٓ إِسْرَٰٓءِيلَ لَا تَعْبُدُونَ إِلَّا ٱللَّهَ وَبِٱلْوَٰلِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًۭا وَذِى ٱلْقُرْبَىٰ وَٱلْيَتَـٰمَىٰ وَٱلْمَسَـٰكِينِ وَقُولُوا۟ لِلنَّاسِ حُسْنًۭا وَأَقِيمُوا۟ ٱلصَّلَوٰةَ وَءَاتُوا۟ ٱلزَّكَوٰةَ ثُمَّ تَوَلَّيْتُمْ إِلَّا قَلِيلًۭا مِّنكُمْ وَأَنتُم مُّعْرِضُونَ ٨٣

And ˹remember˺ when We took a covenant from the children of Israel ˹stating˺, “Worship none but Allah; be kind to parents, relatives, orphans and the needy; speak kindly to people; establish prayer; and pay alms-tax.” But you ˹Israelites˺ turned away—except for a few of you—and were indifferent.

[Surah AlBaqarah : Ayat 83]

وَوَصَّيْنَا ٱلْإِنسَـٰنَ بِوَٰلِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُۥ وَهْنًا عَلَىٰ وَهْنٍۢ وَفِصَـٰلُهُۥ فِى عَامَيْنِ أَنِ ٱشْكُرْ لِى وَلِوَٰلِدَيْكَ إِلَىَّ ٱلْمَصِيرُ ١٤

"And We have commanded people to ˹honour˺ their parents. Their mothers bore them through hardship upon hardship, and their weaning takes two years. So be grateful to Me and your parents. To Me is the final return."
[Surah Luqman : Ayat 14]

Abdullah b. Abi Aufa (may Allah be pleased with him) relates that a person named ‘Alqama was very pious and observed prayers and fasts. At the hour of his death, ‘Alqama was unable to recite the creed despite prompting. His wife made a report

1. Some traditions refer to women instead of men in this case; which implies that as a man who apes woman shall not enter Paradise, likewise a woman who adopts the habit of men shall be deprived of Paradise.

The people submitted to the Prophet: 

O! Messenger of God, we understand what you have told us about the drunkard, but, pray, tell us who is Dayyuth? 

The Holy Prophet observed: 

" He is that shameless fellow who cares not as to what sort of persons visits his wife". (Tibrani).

Of this fact through a messenger to the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). The Holy Prophet enquired: ‘

"Are ‘Alqama’s parents alive?” 

The Prophet was informed that only ‘Alqama’s mother was alive and that she was estranged from him. The Holy Prophet sent a word to ‘Alqama’s mother: 

‘I want to see you. Would you call on me or should I come to visit you ?” 

Alqama’s mother sent a submission: 

‘‘May the lives of my father and mother be sacrificed for you!_ I do not want to cause inconvenience to you. I am coming to wait upon you.”” So the old woman came to the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). The Prophet enquired about Alqama from her. The old woman replied: ‘‘ 

‘Alqama is a pious man, but he always disobeys me and gives preference to his wife over me. Hence I am estranged from him.” 

The Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) told the old woman: “If you forgive his faults it would be better for him.”’ But the woman refused to forgive her son. Upon this, the Prophet ordered Saiyidina Bilal ra to collect some wood and burn ‘Alqama. On hearing this the old woman was frightened and enquired in a daze: 

‘‘Will my child be burnt in fire??? 

The Holy Prophet replied: 

‘Yes, our torment is lighter than the torment of the Almighty. I swear by God as long as you are angry with your son, neither his prayer nor his charity is acceptable to the Almighty.’”’ 

The old woman said :

“Holy Prophet, you be my witness !O people, be my witnesses! I forgive ‘Alqama all his faults.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) addressed the people thus: “Look, has ‘Alqama recited the Kalima with his tongue or not ?” The people reported: “‘O Messenger of God, ‘Alqama recited the creed with his own tongue and he died after having recited the creed of Allah.” 

The Prophet ordered that ‘Alqama’s funeral be prepared; his body should be bathed and shrouded. The Prophet himself accompanied the bie: of ‘Alqama and after his burial, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) observed: “Whosoever among the Muhajirin (emigrants) and Ansar (helpers) disobeys his mother or causes her pain, he is cursed by the Almighty and by the angels and by all the people, God accepts neither his duties nor his prayers as long as he does not repent and does not treat his mother well, and does not make her happy as far as possible. Your mother’s pleasure is a pre-requisite for God’s pleasure on you and a mother’s anger conceals the wrath of God.” ( Trtbrant).